Your Comfort Zone is Choking you to Death
Another re-post from my defunct blog. It was formerly named Fears To Funds, but I decided that was a little bit scary. Anyway, just some thoughts on fear and how it can "mold" your life, if you let it. Feel free to publish it, just keep the resource box at the bottom.
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You know, the largest fear everyone seems to have is the fear of change. Family and friends don't help, either, as they really don't want you to be different from them. They want you in your "comfortable little spot" in their universe, so THEY don't have to make any changes.
But, as the saying goes, "If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten." So, the question is, are you happy with how your life is at this point?
If you answered "no," then, you need to decide what changes you'll make to change your situation. You don't even have to start with a huge change. Even just becoming grateful for the things and people in your life is a beginning. You'll be amazed at what that simple little change can do for you.
Another major fear is failure. First you have to define "failure." What do you consider failure to mean? Does it mean that something didn't work? Does it mean that you didn't get what you wanted?
Instead of looking at such a situation as a failure, look at it as an advancement of your knowledge. That specific event, method, whatever, didn't do what you wanted it to, so you know not to try that again.
Many years ago, I worked for researchers in the Endocrinology field. Most of them were doing diabetic research. Even the "failures" told them something. They eventually came to the conclusion that lipids (fat cells) could block insulin from getting into normal cells, thus causing too much glucose in the bloodstream and not enough in the cells for them to use. I think I have that all right, since I'm not a medical doctor and only typed the articles and reports. LOL
But, the point is, they had to do many experiments and had many that didn't work. Were they really failures? No, because each time, a wrong conclusion was eliminated until they came to the right conclusion.
Even Thomas Edison is credited with claiming 1,000 failures to create a light bulb were not really failures, they were just processes he could eliminate as not being the way to do it.
So, instead, define success for yourself--as the opposite tack to take. Then, make changes in small steps. It will help you adjust to making the changes, help you overcome fear of change (yours and others') and just be grateful you have what you have and can do what you can do.
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C. Rogers Upson is a published author in several venues. She has a website at http://www.edragonmarketing.com that deals with self-help and draconic wisdom, a blog at http://edragonmarketing.blogspot.com that deals with growing a business, and a blog at http://dogpotentials.blogspot.com that deals with her love of dogs and training them.
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You know, the largest fear everyone seems to have is the fear of change. Family and friends don't help, either, as they really don't want you to be different from them. They want you in your "comfortable little spot" in their universe, so THEY don't have to make any changes.
But, as the saying goes, "If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten." So, the question is, are you happy with how your life is at this point?
If you answered "no," then, you need to decide what changes you'll make to change your situation. You don't even have to start with a huge change. Even just becoming grateful for the things and people in your life is a beginning. You'll be amazed at what that simple little change can do for you.
Another major fear is failure. First you have to define "failure." What do you consider failure to mean? Does it mean that something didn't work? Does it mean that you didn't get what you wanted?
Instead of looking at such a situation as a failure, look at it as an advancement of your knowledge. That specific event, method, whatever, didn't do what you wanted it to, so you know not to try that again.
Many years ago, I worked for researchers in the Endocrinology field. Most of them were doing diabetic research. Even the "failures" told them something. They eventually came to the conclusion that lipids (fat cells) could block insulin from getting into normal cells, thus causing too much glucose in the bloodstream and not enough in the cells for them to use. I think I have that all right, since I'm not a medical doctor and only typed the articles and reports. LOL
But, the point is, they had to do many experiments and had many that didn't work. Were they really failures? No, because each time, a wrong conclusion was eliminated until they came to the right conclusion.
Even Thomas Edison is credited with claiming 1,000 failures to create a light bulb were not really failures, they were just processes he could eliminate as not being the way to do it.
So, instead, define success for yourself--as the opposite tack to take. Then, make changes in small steps. It will help you adjust to making the changes, help you overcome fear of change (yours and others') and just be grateful you have what you have and can do what you can do.
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C. Rogers Upson is a published author in several venues. She has a website at http://www.edragonmarketing.com that deals with self-help and draconic wisdom, a blog at http://edragonmarketing.blogspot.com that deals with growing a business, and a blog at http://dogpotentials.blogspot.com that deals with her love of dogs and training them.
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